4 Simple Things To Do To Spice All Relationships In Your Life
4 Simple Things To Do To Spice All Relationships In Your Life
The Lord had said to me that there are four great things which will help every marital relationship last long or stand up on its feet, no matter the type of relationship it is. Of course, though there are also others, these are the first ones the Lord revealed to me.
Your Ability to say ‘Thank You.’
O, what will you do when someone opens his mouth to tell you the words, ‘thank you?’ Never are we to throw the words, ‘Thank You’ away. Those words can give you a ‘promotion’ which you do not deserve.
It will cause people to like you, both at home and in the public places. Do not try to be like those who are mean. Learn to say ‘Thank You’ and learn to be appreciative of things and of what people do for you.
These are virtues that are lost today and it is causing people to perish in life.
If you want to let your business go far, then learn to say thank you to others.
We should not think that we deserve things to happen to us, so then we will not learn to say the words ‘Thank You’ to others. Whatever we have received, we don’t deserve it, because it is God who gave them to us.
Therefore, a house and a marriage in which the spouses and the children learn to say ‘Thank You’ to each other, are going to flourish together.
This was what the Lord said me.
Societies and individual families will be much better if we all, learn to say ‘Thank You.’ Saying thank you will not kill you. So we should not look like ‘beast,’ but are to become appreciative of things.
Therefore, learn to instill these values in your children, into your good and lovely wife as well, by you also practicing it, as their role model.
If we are not appreciative of things as well as others, then the next time, they are not probably going to become generous towards us; the next time we are not probably going to get that contract.
We may ask the next time and we ain’t gonna get it. We must first learn to be appreciative by saying ‘Thank You.’
You do not have the right to own anything and actually nothing belongs to you and this is because everything actually belongs to God: we came with nothing and will surely not be going with any dime we own when the time comes.
The earth is the Lord’s and its fullness and they that dwell therein. In the beginning was God, and Heaven and the Earth were created by Him in that beginning. So, we actually owe God a lot for a lot of things He has done for us. Therefore, it calls for us to be humble, and appreciative of things even if God uses men or people to give them to us.
This is also why we must to go to Church and pray and be thankful to God.
Yes, our inability to go to church is our inability to always say ‘Thank You’ to our Lord Jesus. Suddenly, that inability has led to our inability to say ‘ a big thank you’ to any of friends or our family members when they also do something good, for us.
When they do something for us, we are annoyed instead of us being grateful and becoming ‘appreciative’ of them. No matter how it seems or it looks, we are to be appreciative.
We should never leave the word ‘Thank You’ and must even strive to always be the first to let those words come out of out of our mouths, because those words gladdens both a men’s soul, as well as God’s Soul, when done in a good or happy or a truthful way.
We are to be joyous to say thank yous to others, because they are amazingly rewarding; meanwhile, a lot of individuals and families do away with it.
Therefore, they have neglected its benefits.
Spice your life with these ‘Thank Yous,’ and also instil them in others-others in both your house and in the office. You will shine and be different amongst all of your colleagues. You will win the bid for promotion and will become the first of everything; yes, and of all recommendations abroad and at home.
‘Thank you so much’ for reading this post. But remember to also instil them into your children.
Saying ‘I’m sorry:’
Secondly, for some of us too it, is also very difficult for us to use the words, ‘I’m sorry,’ and when we are even made to say those important words, we do not mean them. We are so hard to say I’m sorry nor to plead for forgiveness when we have hurt or offended others.
For lack of humility for people to say ‘sorry,’ they are not going to have their important relationships back, both at home and in their work places.
For most of the time, it is those of us who are in great or leadership positions that find it difficult to actually use those simple words.
However, surely, we are the ones who would offend the greatest, because of our positions. Yes, the higher you go, the more greater or higher your sins may be in comparison to those who are on the lower part of the ladder.
So, we must learn to say ‘I’m really sorry,’ so that others learning from us will copy such a positive character and return the same to those a step lower than them. Here is an act which will boost homes and societies forward indeed.
Jesus once said that, are inevitable-they will definitely come.
He knew offences would always come because men are fallible. He also stated that we should learn to forgive those who offend us. That was how come He could also forgive us, and also came to die for us, indicating how God remembers we’re fallible and able to forgive us. It is a sign which indicates that, we are not supposed to be offending others.
Sadly, sometimes, it becomes a realization that while at the very same time others are offending you, you as a man may also be in the process of offending others.
If not anyone at all, we’re offending, God. We have all been offending Him ever since we came here on earth and so we should learn to forgive all others while all these same people should also learn to forgive us!
So Jesus said, ‘Give us this day our day bread and forgive us also our trespasses, even as we forgive those who trespass against us.’
Sometimes, being Great comes along with the Gentleman who is able to say sorry, not the one who is always defensive about his or her opinions.
God often detests people like that. He sees them as arrogant. He cannot forgive such people either, because they being men, see themselves as some superior beings on the earth which solely belongs to Him.
Therefore, men who do have calm hearts, are the ones who are able to use the word. Now, those who are not humble enough to say sorry, will soon lose respect from others, and even some rewards in life.
Now, you should show to the world what type of man or woman you are and show to the world that the God of Humility and of Great Calmness dwells in your Heart.
Now, I’m sorry, if I offended you with my long choice of words in here.
I’m saying it because I want a reward from it…
So, develop the habit of always saying the words ‘I’m sorry’ at home and also wherever you find yourself.
Let us learn to forgive ourselves and deal with the hurts. Should we do so, we will surely be going far in life. It is only the humble who gets to the top, not the hard-hearted.
So, do you know some friends out there or relatives out there you have offended, and apologize quickly, by saying sorry.
That is all you need to do.
The Word Called ‘Please:’
Now, do not also take the word ‘please’ for granted. Yes, to learn to say ‘please’ equally prevents us from becoming or looking like beasts in this life; so it’s very important in our lives.
However, many of us do take this particular word ‘for granted.’ Learning to say ‘Please,’ and ‘I’m sorry’ will not kill you at home nor in the office nor even in the public squares. In fact, people will see you as respectful! So then, they will help you resolve a lot issues in all the relationships you have.
You could also be rewarded with a promotion. Yes, you could be liked and will find that many people as well will be drawn to you. This is all because it is a sign of moral upbringing before God and also before men.
The Word Please equally causes people to give to you. Thus, when you’re proud you will never be able to receive favours and kindness from people. By learning to be able to say ‘Please,’ you will be seen as humble. Sometimes, if you will be able to do, learn to be able to say, ‘please’ to even the younger ones as well!
So do we know that we are often losing a lot from not saying ‘please?’ Yes, we do and we are!
Thus, these are the ingredients that will help spice up your relationship and they’ll help you live in that relationship, or a very long time.
Yes, they will help.
Learn to Make Good Confessions over People:
Finally, learn to make Good Confessions and Compliments over people. This is how we are to live in the society if we want to live pleased, with one another.
You have to able to compliment your wife as well as your children when they do something right. You shouldn’t always be there to blame them; same way, you’re always not perfect. So surely, they will always not be perfect even if you give them a thousand years, to do so.
We should know that whoever we are older or matured than may basically make more mistakes than us; and this is why we should be able to let go, or to forgive them.
Complimenting people in a good way is an encouragement or ‘a force of life’ you put into their lives’ which surges through their hearts. So one of the early good things we must actually do so that people won’t get offended or become tired with us is to give them compliment. It will make them like to work with you longer or more.
It will also forever make up these people put trust in you.
As you compliment people, people stick around you. They surely find that you are grateful or appreciative to all the things they have done for you over the years. Let them also celebrate with you the little they have done for you. Never be selfish, or else they won’t find it attractive to keep being around you again.
So then, a fool is the one who is always being ungrateful and keeps up discouraging all other people working around him. So then, you need to be smart in doing that for you to get more people around you, who as well will like to work for you or with you. Thus, a compliment is like a reward given to a person. And so you can equally say ‘Thank You’ to people, as a reward you give onto them.
Thus, never let everything only be about you.
Hence, when we do these in our homes, it will bind our homes together because the people, whether our husbands, wives or children, or even the landlord, or the gatekeeper as well as the servants, do need some form of motivation anytime they are tired, because doing a lot of work is very difficult;
Therefore, as a leader no matter what your position is, if you want the people who work for you to keep loving you and keep being around you, then you must actually learn to compliment them.
So then, when we live in a society without learning to say or do these things then our societies will gradually fall. It is not the bullying and the act of insulting and as well, discouraging others, will resolve the problems we have in all our dying societies today.
So then, no matter who we are we must be humble to say ‘Please, I’m Sorry, Thank You, and as well Complement one another, so that we will not have our world failing or looking like beasts.
This is how a society will grow to become what it should be like; and as for a home or a house, it will become the well-spring of life to an everlasting life.
The absence of these qualities will cause any family, and I repeat-any family or relationship to be destroyed. So, safeguard your families and bind them with these great virtues, that show our love and our concern.
Saying ‘Thank You,’ to each other shows how both of you are appreciative of each other in the relationship.
Saying, ‘Please’ to one another, on the other hand shows how both of you are respectful to each other in the relationship.
Using the terms, ‘I’m sorry’ shows how, both of you understand that you are very human in nature and are liable to be making dire mistakes; you’re not gods and must all be humble at some point.
Finally, complimenting each other will show how both of you are grateful to each other’s little or major inputs in that long lasting relationship.
When we equally practice both these things at home, in our offices or in our societies we’ll surely keep the bond together and grow our families into that peaceful and lovable future.
To God be the Glory.
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